Busy is the New Black

Busy is the New Black

ife is so busy these days, with many of us juggling jobs, childcare, relationships and caring for ageing parents amongst other things. This can lead to us feeling worn out and overwhelmed. Sometimes it feels like being busy is the new black.

So why do we feel so guilty about spending time on ourselves? Busyness has become a social status. Society makes us believe that we have to be busy to be successful, and if we have spare time to spend on ourselves then we must be failing.

A lot of us feel the need to seek permission to relax. As one of our counsellors put it – ‘It’s like our identity is wrapped up in what we do rather than who we are’.

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Fermented Foods -The Next Big Thing

Fermented Foods -The Next Big Thing

Organic September is here and to celebrate, Helen, Rachel and I took a trip to London to investigate the latest trends in organic food, drink and beauty.

The Wellbeing way of life is becoming big news

It’s really encouraging to see that people want to take care of what they are eating, and are becoming aware of the relationship between food and their bodies.  Consequently, healthy food and organic products are becoming more accessible and interesting. We were surprised to see that even the drinks trolley on the train to London sold coconut water!

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Create the Kind of Self you are Happy to Live With: Overcoming Trauma

Create the Kind of Self you are Happy to Live With: Overcoming Trauma

You are courageous!

Time and time again, I am overcome by the bravery of the people who walk into our clinic and seek counselling, or those people who tell me they have been through a course of counselling to recover from the effects of trauma. It takes a lot of courage to face past events and make changes in your thoughts and beliefs. Whether you have been a victim of crime, have been involved in a natural disaster or suffered abuse, the results of trauma are the same; an all-encompassing feeling of fear and helplessness.

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To The Beautiful Shoes: Chronic Pain and Identity

To The Beautiful Shoes: Chronic Pain and Identity

I recently saw a facebook post asking the question…

Do women identify with their high heel shoes? The answer for me was a resounding yes. I wrote this blog about my shoes, identity and chronic pain a while ago, but never published it for fear of it being seen as trivial. However the Facebook post got me thinking about my experience with chronic pain. I have lived with Chronic Pain for the last 15 years. In my experience, pain is a complicated thing, as it affects not only your physical body, it also challenges you emotionally as well. It is very easy to feel as though you become your pain, you begin to feel, although the pain is who you are. You start to identify with the pain, you start to feel as though the pain is robbing  you of your identity. I would like to share one such experience.

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Guest Blog - Claire Dunn of no faff Talks All Things Clean and Wheat Free

Guest Blog - Claire Dunn of no faff Talks All Things Clean and Wheat Free

My youngest was not quite 2 when through a process of trial and elimination, I discovered that he was intolerant to wheat.  After nearly 2 years of putting lose bowels, red dry itchy skin and a bloated tummy down to the usual teething, bugs from nursery, eczema in the family and toddler chub I decided it wasn't right.  He wasn't right.

At first we eliminated dairy but 5 days later, no change.  Next we tried wheat and after 3 days, the red dry skin was gone, bowel movements had improved no end and the bloated tummy was less bloated.  Another couple of weeks later and he was a different boy. 

And so with the relief of finally understanding what was going on, came a bucket load of confusion.  What should he eat?  What alternatives are available in the supermarkets? As I trawled through the aisles reading all the labels, the confusion turned to frustration.

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Blue Monday - Not So Blue?

Blue Monday - Not So Blue?

Since 2005, the third Monday of January has been known as Blue Monday, as it is supposed to be the most depressing day of the year.

Whilst most of us may well be feeling blue after Christmas, with the grey weather, feeling the pinch and more than likely having started a diet, you might be surprised to learn that the term ‘Blue Monday’ was actually coined by a holiday company, to encourage people to get their holidays booked!

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